Sacral Awakening: Healing My Creativity, Sensuality, and Self-Worth

One day, I was hanging out on Clubhouse and I saw a room pop up. I can’t remember what the topic was about, but it was run by a lady who was a Christian sex coach. I immediately thought that was a complete oxymoron, given my own Catholic upbringing and the years of sexual shame I carried – some of which will not be discussed here. I cautiously joined the discussion, prepared to hear talks about Pius sex, fire and brimstone. What ended up happening was a liberating discussion about sex that turned into me developing a friendship with the coach. We have since had lots of conversations – some steamy and others healing.

I enjoy sex. I enjoy having it and I enjoy talking about it, but this hasn’t always been the case. For so long, I believed that pleasure and creativity were things I had to earn – or even feel guilty about. I carried silent wounds from early messages about shame, desire, and worth. But over time, something has been shifting in me. I am remembering that pleasure is sacred. Desire is creative energy. Being wanted and being worthy are not the same thing – I am worthy already.

Today, I honor my sacred energy – my sacred fire.

For my spiritually inclined folks, The Sacral Chakra (Svadhisthana) is the second chakra, located just below the naval. It governs creativity, pleasure, sensuality, emotions, and flow. When it’s balanced, we feel magnetic, juicy, alive, creative, and connected. When wounded, it can hold shame, fear of intimacy, guilt, or creative blockages – often because of trauma, conditioning, or not feeling safe in our bodies or our desires. 

Basically, art is creation. Sex is creation. And we are all creative beings. 

I haven’t always been so comfortable with my sensuality or my sexuality. I was born in the 80s to teenage parents. One thing that I often heard throughout my childhood was that I was going to be just like my parents and get pregnant young. I was never taught about sex or love in a healthy way and much of what I learned, I learned on my own. Connect this with being raised Catholic, where abstinence and virginity were priority and if you had any sexual desires at all, you were a demon destined for hell. While seeing a psychiatrist in my thirties, she assumed I was raised Catholic without me telling her. I asked how she knew, and her response was that all her Catholic patients carried guilt like I did.

When we talk about sex, if we talk about it at all, we talk about the fire and brimstone. We talk about how it’s bad and you could get pregnant or catch a disease. Much of the shame gets directed toward those of us who aren’t heterosexual men. We’re not taught about how the body is designed for pleasure. Many women don’t know that the clitoris is primarily designed for providing pleasure and sexual sensation and is the most sensitive erogenous zone in the female body. In fact, not enough men know this.

When I was able to push past the stigmas, I came to approach sex like I would a box of crayons. I became curious and wanted to play. There are so many women who never allowed themselves to explore what turns them on. To this day, I’m amazed that there are women who have sex and never have an orgasm. When I was younger, I hid my desires behind shame. I worried that my partner would judge me if I asked for one thing or another, and I’ve had partners who have done this. But it never stopped my curiosity. The more I’d ask for what I wanted, the more confident I became. The more confident I became, the more I learned. I began to understand that not only was I worth everything I asked for, but I was also confident in knowing that I could return the favor.

Sex is a very powerful tool aside from being an expression of creation, love, or lust. It can also be a powerful manifestation tool. The “O Method” suggests that energy released during orgasm can be harnessed to attract desired outcomes, such as love, success, or opportunities. This method is rooted in the concept that peak moments of pleasure are opportunities to tap into a potent, creative energy to align with your intentions (so ladies, stop faking it.)

Sex can also be a natural way to relieve stress. It releases hormones like oxytocin, which promote relaxation and well-being. It helps to reduce cortisol which is a hormone associated with stress. It’s a physical activity, and like any other exercise, it releases endorphins, which have mood-boosting and pain-reducing effects.

It took some time, but I learned to heal my relationship with pleasure and creation. I’ve learned to embrace my own sensuality and desirability without shame. Not only have I awakened my inner artist, but also my inner lover. And I no longer apologize for any of this. 

Sacral energy is not just about sex – it's about being alive, connected, creative, sensual, and authentic. It’s about remembering that I am a creator –of art, of love, and of my own story. Today, I honor the sacred fire within me. And I let it dance.